What is the difference between a traditional and an enlightened relationship?

What is the difference between a traditional and an enlightened relationship?

We experience life through relationships. All forms of associations are important to us: connections within our community, bonds with family, and intimacy with romantic partners. Our relationships are so vital to our existence that their quality and status have the power to completely alter every aspect of our lives, from living situations to employment and from our beliefs about ourselves to our moment-to-moment emotional states.
  For most people, their relationship with a romantic life-partner is of supreme importance and receives a tremendous amount of energy and focus.
Some of you might be desperately trying to attract your soul mates and some of you who find yourselves in relationships are often restless to seek improvement and a deeper connection.  Those of us who are experiencing personal transformation are seeking partners who are in alignment with our higher selves. Rather than continue to live out the patterns of our past, we seek a deeper connection, an enlightened relationship, a soul mate. 
Often, even in soul mate relationships, breakdowns occur because either or both partners are not prepared for the relationship. Rather than focusing on the desire to attract a “soul mate” or perfecting your current relationship, I recommend starting by raising your own awareness, consciousness, and emotional readiness to prepare yourself to experience an enlightened relationship.  An enlightened relationship is one in which both partners are actively working on aligning with their higher selves.  
Typical traditional Relationship Characteristics

– Shared living environment    
– Shared Responsibilities
– Friendship
– Physical Intimacy  
NEED: Dependency/Enmeshment
Roles/Conflict  Growth Through Experience

Enlightened Relationships Characteristics

– Shared interests and time together
– Mutual support for growth
– Emotional intimacy
– True companionship
WANT: Union/ Wholeness/Cooperation/ Conscious Growth

Traditional Relationship: Improve through learning relationship skills: Communication strategies, compromise, remembering and sharing commonalities, recognizing differences and accommodating them, becoming aware of triggers and patterns, and learning each other’s love language.

Enlightened Relationship :

Improve by learning about yourself: Creating a shared life vision, increasing quality time together, helping the other reach his or her highest potential, improving the depth of your connection, developing a deeper understanding of your uniqueness, and more fully recognizing and transcending your triggers and patterns.

Almost any two people can create a functional, satisfying relationship if they put the effort into the relationship. This is why arranged marriages often work.  Not everyone is prepared for an enlightened relationship. However, anyone can enlighten their relationship if they are willing to look deeply into their own self, release limiting beliefs and patterns, and open themselves to true love and partnership.
 BOTH partners must want this form of relationship. 
BOTH partners must know themselves well and have worked through many of their patterns and triggers.  BOTH partners must have compatible life and relationship visions.

The wonderful thing about relationships is that you can always learn, grow and improve from where you are at, whether you are currently in one or not. We all carry baggage into our relationships. We have all been hurt and have wounds to heal. We all have patterns we’ve learned and habits we’d like to break. We are all human.

How would you describe the enlightened relationship that you truly desire?
Do you know exactly what it is that you are looking for?
What are some specific things you can work on within yourself that would help you align with this new reality?

As always,  Much Love and Light your way!