5 Things Resilient Couples do Differently

My anniversary is next week and as a tribute to the many years I have with the love of my life,  I would like to share with you 5 things that resilient couples do to make their relationship grow, become more fulfilling and ultimately happier with each year together.

Of course no relationship is perfect and neither is mine… there are times that it seems so hard to remember this things but when we get out of our heads and back into our hearts and the things that really matter, it becomes easier for us to focus on our deep love…and LOVE IS ALL WE  NEED.

1- We focus on hope and the positive. We encourage each other and allow each of us to be strong when the other is weak.  As resilient couples we are there for each other and stay away from criticism or blame.

2- We are grateful even when we go through crisis. We look at things with perspective, this allows us to become stronger after each tough situation. Remember gratitude, gratitude, gratitude = love, love , love.

3- We try to become master communicators using CARE instead of confrontation.
C — Communicate the facts.
A — Address your concerns in an objective way
R — Reach out and ask the other person for his/her perspective
E — Evaluate outcomes

Think and feel before we speak and listen twice as much.

4- Remember that we are not only a couple but we are also best friends.
See each other’s soul and communicate at a soul level. Sometimes our personalities can get in the way of true love but when this happens we stop, breathe and remember our deep connection and always choose kindness over being right.

5- We practice empathy. The ability to understand another person’s experiences and emotions is a powerful relationship tool. Empathetic people tend to be less selfish, having a genuine interest in the well-being of others.

The best relationships are not just about the good times you share, having fun is great!!! but they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.
Loving each other for who we truly are, loving the good and the bad and feeling peace at the end of each day knowing that your heart is safe in your partner’s hands.

If you or someone you know is struggling in their relationship please know that there is hope if there is love. Find the help you need and go back to the that space inside your heart, deep down in your soul where there is only peace, where you and your partner are one with the Universe, where everything is okay, where you love this person as much as you love yourself, and if you both want, your relationship can become mind blowing amazing as mine did…

As always I am here for you if you and contact me if you would like to know more about the relationship coaching I offer for all kinds of relationships.

With great love,


About The Author

Gabriela Milan

Transformational Lifer Coach,
Clinical and Transpersonal Hypnotherapist,
Reiki Master, Mindfulness Teacher.
Cell # 801-604-3767